The Best Way to ‘Pace and Lead’ (that I’ve found)

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Saint Paul

I wrote about this on Twitter this morning but I thought you might like a bit more.

From the outside, “persuasion” is often seen as trying to get someone to do something against his own interests.

That’s not persuasion. That’s manipulation.

In reality, persuasion is highlighting why an idea (or product or service) is in someone’s interests.

And because most people are resistant to new ideas, they’re unlikely to be persuaded by your arguments or data.

Instead, he has his own set of arguments and data.

And he’d much prefer if you joined his “side” — because then his worldview isn’t challenged.

So how can you get people to hear your ideas?

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How to Agree Even When You Don’t Agree

Almost any discussion breaks down when one side stops listening to the other side.

Which is to say, almost every discussion.

You have points that you want to make and obviously the other side doesn’t have their facts straight. Because if they did, they wouldn’t be on the other side.

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10 Things You’ll Learn from “Never Split the Difference” by Chris Voss

I’m always in the lookout for new books of interest. I tend to buy far more than I have time to read, and it ensures I always have something cooking in my brain.

List subscriber Philippe wrote in a month ago to suggest Chris Voss’ Never Split the Difference. Philippe said it might be the best book on persuasion that he had read. I bought it… and immediately moved it to the top of my pile.

Is this the best book on persuasion I've ever read? It just might be…
Is this the best book on persuasion I’ve ever read? It just might be…

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