Here’s a shocker that you may have heard from me before — People want to help other people that they like!
When people like you, they want to help you. They want to spend time with you. They want to do business with you.
So how do you get people to like you? How do you build that rapport? (more…)
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People hardly ever say what they mean. Most people are driven by emotions, especially in highly-charged circumstances. Their words reflect those emotions, even if they act otherwise.
The kid (or coworker) that grumbles throughout a task — is still doing that task (even though she’s not framing it in a positive way).
The spouse, during an argument, who throws out the incorrect idea that (more…)
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10 Things I Learned from Andrew DeYoung, author of “The Exo Project”
Notes from my interview with Andrew DeYoung and the Persuasion Play Podcast episode 002.
Praise the efforts of children, not their outcomes. Works on adults too!
Cure your bad habits with “Sludge”
The opposite of Nudge, which sets beneficial defaults, Sludge makes compliance as difficult as possible. The idea is to intentionally add friction to your transactions to lessen their likelihood.
Study links decline in teenagers’ happiness to smartphones
Smartphones steal our focus, give us a short-lived feeling of social connections, and cause us to compare our boring moments with photos of the amazing lives of people we know.
Scientists Just Identified The Physical Source of Anxiety in The Brain
More evidence that animals like you and I are controlled by our wiring.
How To Get Your Point Across To These Five Personality Types
Five ways to present your argument.
Andrew DeYoung has wanted to be a writer since he started reading Chapter Books in grade school.
And while Andrew’s been a writer for decades, his first published novel has made a splash.
The Exo Project was the winner of the 2017 Minnesota Book Awards for Young Adult Literature! Congratulations Andrew!
I am lucky enough to live across the street from Andrew. We spent an evening together drinking whiskey, chatting about his writing, and discussing the need for validation that comes with the creative process.
Check it out! (more…)
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Way back in 2012, my wife and I traveled by Amtrak train to Chicago to visit some friends. Between card games in the bar car and beautiful scenery out the window, I read a book about Negotiation.
I was interested in making more money. I wasn’t sure how to ask or even if I was in the right profession. (more…)
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#business #motivation #scripts #socialproof #scarcity
Imagine you’re at a party. You stop in the kitchen to refill your beverage. You find yourself drawn into a conversation. As the evening (and the conversation) progresses, the kitchen fills with more and more people.
Soon it seems as though the rest of the house must be empty! Everyone is in the kitchen!
I’m sure you’ve noticed — people love to gather in the kitchen at parties. The hearth is the symbolic center of the home, where food and warmth are found. (more…)